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75 Calming Strategies for Kids

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75 Calming Strategies for Kids


Our children aren’t born knowing how to manage and regulate their feelings. It can be overwhelming for them as they learn and try to make sense of the world around them. This includes their emotions, and they can become easily overwhelmed, so it’s crucial our kids have calming strategies they can follow.

As parents, we can accidentally invalidate our children by swooping in to fix things. Or reduce their opportunities to learn to cope when we rush in. Although our instinct is to react, we also need to support our children in learning to regulate and calm themselves. Here are a whopping 75 calming strategies for kids you can use to help your child:

Calming Strategies for Kids

1. Get Out in Nature

Two children having an adventure, climbing and stepping in a river exploring a beautiful natural area. Beautiful, idyllic and tranquil childhood moment. Sisters or friends, innocent and free.

Being in nature for 20 minutes a day, or 120 minutes during the week, is shown to reduce stress and help us feel calmer.1

2. Try Visualization

Teach your child how to use visual techniques where they shut their eyes and picture a calm or beautiful place. Getting them to concentrate on the details of a beach (shells, sand, the crash of the waves, etc.) is an excellent calming technique for kids.

3. Stay Hydrated

Research indicates that dehydration is linked to mental performance.2 If your child is overwhelmed, help them get a glass of cold water (which reduces body temperature and cortisol or stress levels) and have them sip it slowly.

4. Sing Out Loud

Cute little girl singing and clapping with her mother in the kitchen.

Instead of shouting, harness your child’s energy and need to get some big feelings out by getting them to sing loudly!

5. Get Out the Art Supplies

Research shows that engaging in art—drawing, coloring, etc.—helps reduce stress levels in the body (cortisol).3

6. Do Some Star Jumps

Another great calming technique for kids is if your child is irritated or frustrated, get them to move and expel some of that energy by doing star jumps.

7. Use Cold Water

When we feel worried, scared, cross, or stressed, our nervous system can kick in (fight, flight, freeze). So, if we wash our face in cold water, have a cold shower, and remove some clothing layers to cool our body down, it helps us regulate our nervous system.

8. Blow Bubbles

Boy playing soap bubble. Blowing bubbles outside.

Kids enjoy watching and popping bubbles, and we can model calm breathing practices when we blow the bubbles.

9. Get Them to Describe Something to You

Another calming technique for kids you can try is to have them describe something’s shape, colors, texture, etc. Instead of filtering information through the emotional part of their brain, you are getting them to use a different and more logical part, which helps them regain focus and be more open to self-soothing and problem-solving.

10. Name That Feeling

Naming your child’s feelings helps them make sense of their inner world, which in turn helps them feel calmer as they understand what the sensations in their body mean and why they feel that way. It also supports their connection with you, which is a win-win!

11. Watch Live Fish in a Tank

Okay, this one still has more research before it’s a proven strategy for reducing anxiety and stress. Still, many emerging studies show that after people watch a tank of live fish, they experience decreased stress, improved mood, and increased relaxation.4 So, maybe it’s time to plan a trip to the local aquarium?

12. Talk It Out

Not only does expressing their feelings help them reduce stress, but we can help them problem-solve, reduce triggers, or support them with coping strategies once we know what’s bothering them.

13. Take a Warm Bubble Bath or Warm Shower

Boy in the bathtub playing with the bubbles. Overhead shot.

Water soothes kids, so incorporating a warm bath or shower into their routine or strategically jumping in the tub could help them calm down.

14. Focus on What They Can Control

Sometimes our little people feel overwhelmed or distressed because they are little people. And as such, they don’t have much control over things in their world, which can upset them. Try to give your child some choices (but not too many to be overwhelming) so they feel like they control more things.

15. Keep the Play Dough on Standby

There is something calming and rhythmic about rolling play dough or squeezing it. Your child expresses negative feelings positively by squeezing dough instead of hitting or kicking. It can also meet some sensory needs for different textures and touches.

16. Affirmations

These are statements of coping. When we teach our kids to focus on how they can cope rather than on what’s gone wrong, they tend to feel more in control and more capable. So, practice some key affirmations like “I can cope with big feelings,” “I can manage when things get tough,” or “It’s okay to ask for help when things are challenging.”

17. Pause

Teach your kid the art of taking a five-second pause as a calming technique. In those five seconds, their logical brain has a chance to kick in, and they are more likely to respond to things calmly.

18. Focus on Something Positive

Help improve your child’s mood by supporting them to cope with challenges and shift their mindset by helping them focus their attention on things that are working well, easily, or successfully.

19. Offer a Hug

Mom squatting down to give her young daughter a hug in their living room.

Don’t jump straight in and hug without permission. Some children need space when stressed and overwhelmed. But remember the midwife, OB, and child health nurses saying how good skin-to-skin was for helping your baby regulate and feel calm? Use those same principles and gather your little person for a lovely, calming cuddle.

20. Rocking

Have them sit and sway or rock in a chair. The movement is rhythmic and soothing.

21. Rip Up Paper

This can help them express angry feelings in a way that won’t hurt anyone or themselves. They could rip, crumple, and ball up paper to help get some frustration out.

22. Go for a Jog

Exercise releases endorphins which fight stress. So, take them for a gentle jog in the neighborhood.

23. Give Them a Fidget Toy

Boy playing with rainbow pop it fidget toy. Push bubble fidget sensory toy - washable and reusable silicon stress relief toy. Antistress toy for child with special needs, mental health concept.

Giving them access to a fidget toy or jewelry can help expel restless energy.

24. Offer a Shoulder Massage

A bit like having a cuddle; always ask for permission. Giving a shoulder or hand massage to your child can help not only their sense of connection to you but it can help them feel relaxed and calm.

25. Introduce an Aroma or Scent

Find a scent that makes them feel happy or calm and spray it or roll it. The science is still out on how scent influences mood, but if your child enjoys the smell or brings up pleasant memories, keeping some on standby can be a good idea.

26. Listen to Music

You could help them pick the music they can dance to and get extra energy out, or perhaps pick something slower to help soothe them.

27. Mindful Coloring

The calming technique of mindful coloring for kids means you get some of the benefits of art we already discussed. But the element of being mindful also helps us feel calm. Mindfulness means being in the moment and not getting caught up with future worries or past issues. So, settle your child down with a mindful coloring-in page.

28. Gratitude Attitude

Child writes thank you on paper with crayon.

Being grateful enhances empathy and impacts bodily functions like stress, anxiety, and depression.5 So, try practicing daily gratitude with your child and expressing what you are grateful for each day!

29. Show Them How It’s Done

You are your child’s first teacher. When you feel a bit stressed or frazzled, model calming behavior and let them see how you employ your coping strategies.

30. Give Them Space

We all need space at times. Sometimes your child needs space to feel relaxed, calm and collected.

31. Look at Fractals

Inside of Nautilus Shell Showing Spiral

What on earth is that? I can hear you ask. Fractals are patterns that repeat in nature, like a swirling succulent or seashell. Just search online, and some images will pop up to help you. Research indicates that looking at pictures of fractals reduces stress by up to 60%.6

32. Have a Toy They Can Cuddle

Knowing they can access a particular “lovey” or comfort item can be immediately soothing to your child.

33. Dance

Not only does dancing get their energy out and release endorphins, but the rhythm of dancing can also be soothing.

34. Change the Scenery

Move your child away from things that might be triggering their negative feelings.

35. Progressive Muscle Relaxation

You can search for kid-friendly progressive muscle relaxation videos on how to practice this skill. It focuses on tensing and then relaxing muscle groups which help to manage stress and tension in the body.

36. Play a Game

Change the focus and shift their attention to a different experience that will elicit a different mood, in this case, happiness. Pull out their favorite game and play with them.

37. Catch Them Escalating

When you see them escalating, please don’t wait for them to explode. As a calming technique for kids, try and intervene during the buildup. It’s much easier to intervene at these earlier stages, and they will be more capable of being logical and problem-solving. They will also be able to help themselves to move past their frustration if they can catch things early enough.

38. Knit, Crochet, or Make Jewelry

Small cute girl enjoying knitting at home while listening to music on her headphones.

You could also thread beads. Anything with flow or rhythm can be soothing.

39. Give Them Something Neutral to Focus On

Sometimes when we get upset, our brains focus on what’s going wrong or the negatives. You can refocus their brains on something positive by giving their mind a job. This is where the focus becomes something neutral that isn’t attached to a big feeling. For example, counting red things or finding five square-shaped things.

40. Don’t Rush to Fix Things

I know it’s tempting to rush in quickly to make things right, and it comes from a place of love and wanting to look after your little person. But it takes away their opportunity to learn how to manage when things are challenging for them. (Here are some other things not to do for your kids.)

41. Ask Them to Rate Their Feelings

Not only will you gauge how big the feeling is, but it also helps your child make sense of their emotions. Then they can also better match coping strategies when they know how intense the feeling is.

42. Fill Their 5 Cups

We all have cups to fill, mastery, fun, connection, freedom, and safety. When these cups are sufficiently filled, it’s easier to cope, and we tend to be more regulated and calmer.

43. Pet a Pet

Cute little boy relaxing on the bed with his small cat.

When we pet animals, it releases oxytocin, otherwise known as the love hormone.7 This can help make us feel good!

44. Use an Anger Thermometer

Draw a thermometer and color code it—green, orange, and red. Help them use the colors to understand how their emotions build up and boil over (going from green to red). You can ask them to tell you what color they feel, but you can also help them decide on coping strategies that effectively work at each stage of escalation.

45. Positive Attention

Try to avoid saying good girl or good boy. Instead, highlight the good things they are doing well. It can improve self-esteem and confidence, boosting their mood.

46. Draw Clear Boundaries

Clear boundaries equal safety, and safety means calm. So, clear, firm, and developmentally appropriate boundaries help your child feel more regulated and peaceful.

47. Plan Transitions

When we move between activities, it can be very challenging for kids. They often don’t understand why or find it hard to stop doing what they enjoy. So, plan and prepare them for any transitions that may be coming up.

48. Try to Give Them Options

Baby boy play with mother on floor at home

Instead of saying, “It’s time to put your shoes on,” you could try saying, “Do you want to put your shoes on before or after brushing your teeth?” These options help kids feel in control, which allows them to feel calmer.

49. Use Advanced Planning

If you know your child has specific triggers, plan how you might cope and involve them in this process. If they get grumpy when it’s time to eat and you have an appointment simultaneously, make sure you pack snacks for them.

50. Encourage Problem-Solving

You know the old saying: Give a man a fish, and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish, and he will never go hungry. Well, it’s the same principle for problem-solving. If we fix things for our kids, they don’t learn how to solve problems. Instead, help them figure out how to cope with or manage a situation next time so they have the skills if they need them in the future.

51. Give Them Uninterrupted Time with You

Quality time, not necessarily the quantity of time, is so essential for our children. Ensure you dedicate a few minutes daily to being present and engaged with them.

52. Create a Sensory Bottle

Cute Asian little Montessori boy pouring water into glass water bottle with concentration on wooden table at home

Fill a bottle with glycerin, soap, water, and “bits and bobs” (beads, sand, shells, pom poms, etc.) and seal the bottle. When you shake it, it swirls and settles and can be very soothing to watch.

53. Bounce a Ball

With bouncing a ball, you get the benefits of exercise and endorphins, but you also can get frustrations and irritations out. In addition, when you bounce a ball, the rhythm and sound can be soothing.

54. Look at Happy Photos

Hijack their mood by looking at photos which might trigger a different mindset. Perhaps excitement or happiness when they look at a favorite holiday or their family.

55. Make Silly Faces in the Mirror

Inject fun and happiness by making goofy faces together in a mirror.

56. Create an I Spy Jar

Fill a jar with a few small objects to “spy,” like a marble, figurine, etc., and then top it up with uncooked rice or dried beans and seal the lid of the jar. Your child can roll it around, looking for all the different objects.

57. Write a Letter

Girl writing a Christmas wish list under the improvised tent

Putting words to our feelings helps us understand and manage them. Writing a letter helps us process the experience, which helps us move past it.

58. Build a Fort

Create a safe, cozy space for them to escape for some quiet time when needed.

59. Whisper

Take the volume and stress down a notch and whisper. Your child will have to focus on hearing you. This ensures they aren’t overwhelming their senses if they are already dysregulated.

60. Jump on a Trampoline

This is fun and great for little bodies to release energy through exercise and calm themselves down.

61. Draw the Feeling

Get them to color or draw what their feeling looks like. This is another activity aimed at helping them make sense of their emotions.

62. Put Headphones On

A child listening to music on wireless headphones

Find some noise-canceling headphones they can use if they feel overwhelmed or triggered by loud places or need some quiet time to recover.

63. Start Counting

Counting down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 is a great mindfulness activity. It gets our kids focused on the moment instead of future worries or past issues. You can also get them to identify five things they can see, four things they can touch, three things they can hear, two things they can smell, and one thing they can taste.

64. Take a Mindful Walk

Mindfulness is excellent for calming and relaxation. Take them outside and lead them on a mindful walk to help them focus on their feet and legs moving as they step and the texture of the ground beneath their feet.

65. Count Their Heartbeats

Help them measure their heartbeat when they are stressed. Then, do some calming activities and measure again. It will help them see the impact of their actions in feeling more relaxed.

66. Grab a Weighted Blanket

A weighted blanket meets proprioception needs, which is the need for the body to know where it exists in the world. Weighted blankets put slight pressure on muscles and joints, which helps the body regulate the proprioception sense.

67. Do Yoga or Meditation

There are plenty of kid yoga and meditation videos out there aimed at kids that do a great job of helping them feel calm and connected to their bodies.

68. Drink Hot Cocoa and Breathe

Helping your child learn the art of a good, calm, relaxed breath makes them imagine breathing in the yummy smell of hot chocolate and then breathing out slowly to cool it down, ready for a sip.

69. Climb Something (Safely)

The act of climbing releases a lot of energy and has lots of lovely benefits of exercise and being outdoors.

70. Say the Alphabet Backward

This stops their mind from dwelling on negative thoughts or worries for a minute. Then, their bodies have a chance to catch up and calm down.

71. Practice Sensory Awareness

For this, you can use your hand to trace their face or their hand gently.

72. Do a Body Scan

This is another mindfulness activity. Get your child to draw attention to different parts of their body. Ask them what it feels like to wiggle their toes in their socks and what their legs feel like if they are sitting in a chair. You can also draw their attention to the rise and fall of their chest as they breathe.

73. Read to Them

Reading aloud to your child is a great practice. Hearing your voice and focusing on the story and words on the page can be soothing for children.

74. Turn Off or Dim the Lights

This is another way of reducing sensory stimulation and helping them to calm and settle.

75. Remind Them That Feelings Come and Go

Sometimes children can get worked up and distressed because they feel overwhelmed by a feeling and unsure if or when it will go away. Remind them that no feeling can last forever. You might even describe the emotion as a wave that comes and goes. It helps them understand and accept that it’s natural to have big feelings and not be fearful of them.

Hopefully, this extensive list of calming strategies for kids will give you and your child plenty of things to try. Remember that it’s normal for children to experience a wide range of emotions, but if we don’t give them the tools or help them understand their feelings, it can exacerbate things. Also, it’s important to understand that we don’t want to get rid of or avoid their feelings but rather use these activities to reduce the intensity and help them know they can control and support themselves when things get challenging.

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