Author: Adorably Perfect

posted on July 14 2019 Is it okay to hit your children? It’s amazing what I thought was a dead certain capital NO, is not 100% true in the UK. One of the last countries in Europe where it is legal to smack your child as reasonable punishment. The debate here is less about the smack and more about the force exerted. To contextualise most adults remember being physically hurt in school by their teachers. It wasn’t until 1999 that Engalnd banned punishment in the independent school sector. (Americans insert shock emoji face here) And there were appeals. The heads of a number…

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posted on September 12 2019 You know the kind– multigenerational, no entertainer, toys scattered, fun? The most organised activity, if you can be asked, might be Pass the Parcel. That’s what we call a Good Old Fashioned Birthday Party.  I was at one last weekend. Sweet little Sylvie who was turning two. There was newborns to 97 year olds, family, friends and neighbours. Cake was the main event and there was even a thank you speech from Sylvie’s hugely hospitable dad. Along the wall, they had clipped photos to a string, one for every month of Sylvie’s life and lots…

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It’s been a tough year on marriages.Maybe after all this spontaneous “together time,” you’re wondering if you’re happily married after all. Or even if “happily married” is still in the cards.Make no mistake. Happily married isn’t the same as easily married.Because just like most of life in the real world—and contrary to prime time’s brand of effortless affection—greatness lies on the other side of overcoming natural impulses. Like irritation slouching into contempt. Self-protective grudges trumping self-sacrificing forgiveness. Prioritization of our own schedules, needs, and long-term plans over someone else’s.In my own marriage—20 years to a man who’s hands-down my best…

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Go Back To All Holidays ArticlesThere are plenty of things vying for our attention during the holidays. Toxic thoughts don’t need to be one of them.By Laura WayThe holidays are stressful. Schedules and to-do lists are packed, we see people we don’t often see (like your cousin’s father-in-law’s nephew), and there’s pressure to make everything magical for everyone. And while there are plenty of things vying for our mental and emotional attention, toxic thoughts don’t need to be one of them.What do I mean by “toxic”? These are distorted ways of perceiving reality. Let’s look at some holiday hypotheticals, shall…

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So many of us are struggling to catch our breath from our life circumstances this year.One friend of mine with three kids lost her husband. Another lost a massive scholarship and college career when his university went under. Another friend lost the business she’d built for years. I personally endured a scathing career loss.But as we whip mashed potatoes for Thanksgiving—or simply eye the vacant chair at the dinner table—what does it look like to be thankful in a year of loss?I think of Job, pummeled as all he loved was ripped from him. He “arose and tore his robe…

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About a week before election day, we were just about to shut off the lights when our teenage son came into our bedroom and declared he couldn’t sleep. Anxiety about the election was getting to him, and he wanted to talk.“There are gonna be riots no matter who wins,” he said.I grabbed my glasses and sat up in bed, shaking the sleepy fog from my mind.As he spoke, I longed for the days when I could walk into his room and vanquish the monsters with a loud roar. This time, he wasn’t scared of a shadow or the knocking of…

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